My wife and I embark on a new journey together today. We are applying to become adoptive parents. We have met with adoption co-ordinators and have selected the agency that hopefully unite us with our first child.
A couple of listeners who have also adopted--or have been adopted--have heard me talk about our interest in the process earlier and have contacted me with advice. I appreciate that and will keep your recommendations in mind throughout the process. Both my wife and I know there will be many ups and downs along the way--and we will try to keep an even keel throughout.
The emotional rollercoaster actually begins right at the the application step. We spent much of the weekend debating some of the questions asked right at the start. You see, the agency provides you with a laundry list of medical and physiological condition with which a child could be born--and you have to decide if you could or could not be able to raise a child like that. In a way, you almost feel selfish saying "no" to any of them--knowing that parents expecting through pregnancy don't get to give their doctor a checklist of conditions for their baby.
Now comes the hard part--the waiting. We will first wait to see if we are chosen for the next round of parenting classes--then a home visit--then the wait for birth parents to choose us to adopt their child. If you think nine months is a tough wait to be a parent--imaging having an open-ended timeline--and no direct influence on moving it along.
But in the end, I know it will be for the best. My wife and I will have a new person to love in our lives--and a baby will be given a chance at life it might not otherwise have had.